Why you are shy | Revealed

Why you are shy

Have you ever questioned yourself?  ”Why you are shy”

Here by using the word shy, I mean feeling uncomfortable, getting blushed, change in behavior facing someone/group of people.

I don’t how much shy you are. But, I will reveal the truth of your shyness. Guaranteed

To be honest with you I am too suffering from the same shy sickness. The degree may vary, I am shy too. This is the why exactly I can tell about your shyness. Before writing this post I have researched myself and noted down all the reasons for my shyness.

This post will show you the reasons for your shyness. And hopefully, you will act on improving yourself. Here we go…

 Let me ask a question to myself ”Do I shy all the time?”

The answer is ”No”. Then when I am not shy.

I am not shy when talking to my mother, father, sister and brother.

I am not shy when talking to my friends.

I am not shy when talking to my neighbor. and the list goes on…

This means I am not shy with people whom I know for a long time.

And, This is same with you. ”You are shy with only unknown people’


Let me ask myself a second question ” am I shy all the time?”

The answer is ”Nope”

I was not shy during my last viva test.

I was not shy when I presented my science project in front of hundreds of students.

I was not shy doing a weird dance after getting into finals in school table tennis championship.

I was not shy dancing in front of a bunch of people in a bar.

Why I was not in all the above situations. I should have shied as there were many peoples watching me who are unknown to me.

OK, let me answer ”why I was not shy” in all the above situations one by one.

I was not shy during my last viva test because I was totally prepared for my test. I have studied and revised all and ready for facing difficult questions.

I was not shy when I presented my science project in front of hundreds of students as I was too passionate about my science project. It was my design and I wanted to show to others.

I was not shy about my weird dance after getting into finals in school table tennis championship because it was so exciting and I was proud of myself.

I was not shy dancing in front of a bunch of people in a bar because I took more than 4 glasses of whiskey(Here in Guwahati we do not get shots in small vessels, here a glass holds approximately 200 ml, of course with water added).

If you see all the above situations, only one word comes to my mind that is ”Confidence”.

I was confident that I can answer any questions from my syllabus because I prepared it long.

I was confident about my science project that my project is best among all other science projects.

I was confident about myself that if I play well, I may become the table tennis champion.

I was confident about my dance that my dance is the perfect dance moves mankind (hehe). Just joking, I am not even a lower level dancer. But, that alcohol created a mental situation where I was not caring anyone. My confidence level got high. Felt like who is going to say anything to me.

I felt like ”I am the king”. I can do whatever I want.

If I have to sum up in one word I would say it was the CONFIDENCE which kicked all my shyness.

That means we(You and me) are not shy when we are confident about ownself.



Stop judging yourself.

Next time you going to delivering a speech, don’t judge yourself that you are good or bad at public speaking. Just do it.



The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck | An Interesting Book to Read

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

You need to check out this awesome book by Mark Manson.

For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. “F**k positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.

Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—”not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.” Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.

There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about an experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

What you will get from this book:

1.You will get the confidence to do anything in your life.

2.Start a new life from zero.

3.Courage to defeat your fear.

4.And most importantly bring a change in you.

Though I, don’t guaranty you. But, if you put his words into action then definitely there will be change.



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You need a change!

Are you depressed? Do you wish if you had more money? Are you lonely? Do you wish you wake up next morning and you don’t have to go to your 9 to 5 job again? You don’t want to continue your study, you are fed up and wanna quit?

If all the above symptoms are seen that it is 100% essential that you need a change.

By change, I don’t mean that you need to change your body colour or join a premium club to transform you. All you need is to change some minor habits in your daily life. If you want you can read here an incredible post on 13 things mentally strong people avoid.

Why is change important?

Why change is important, this question is very important. Change is nature, it’s same life undressing of plants in winter and again embracing a new start with autumn.

You may be the most depressed person in the world, no one gives a damn about you. Someone may be lucky enough to have some near and dear one. But, all are not lucky enough.


Examples of some great persons who welcomed a change to change their lives.



Step by step transformation

Is it possible to change in seconds, in minutes, in hours, overnight? Of course not.

I want you to change gradually.

Here is the Recipe for change

  1. Yoga
  2. drink a cup of confidence.
  3. Make schedule

Some of you may wonder why to make a schedule. A schedule is very important if you want to get success. I too asked myself why to make myself a robot following some shitty schedule.

I have tested my life both with a schedule and without a schedule. When I write for you I first test on me and I recommend you. So, that you don’t blame me later on. There was days when I used to wake up at 11, 12 AM and days like waking early.

Here I am giving you some health advice, waking up early makes healthy. I just I want to say that, make a schedule for your works. You may sleep at 6 AM and wake up at 2 PM. It doesn’t matter until you are finishing your tasks regularly.


This is my last plea to you please bring a change in you and see the difference. I don’t need anything from you. I have gone through this period and living my dream life.

Now it’s your turn.



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